Life Drainers and Life Brighteners

2020 was meant to be E P I C.
Everyone thought exactly the same, there were posts on social media about it and people had, hope.

It started off well, which after a pretty pants few years was a great start.

A very good friend of mine said the following:

I really think this is a good time to start viewing your relationships and friendships especially a bit differently. You are a giver by nature. You are kind and nurturing and you genuinely gain pleasure by doing nice things for other people. Problem is this means that ‘takers’ are drawn to you because they know that you are a ‘giver’ so to speak. I think you need to be wary of people like that in your life, because they will suck you dry and it appears that people like that have been getting you down and upsetting you a lot recently. I’m not saying you should change. You can’t anyway – you are who you are (and I love you that way) but don’t give to those who do not deserve it. Do not let them take your kindness, goodness, time, effort, tears because they not only do not deserve it but they do not appreciate all you do for them either.
This is the thing I think we need to accept, certain individuals will not give back no matter how much we give and hope they will too.

She is 100% correct.... My friends have always been my family, my life and my support unit and mean the absolute world to me. I needed to asses who made "The Cut" and I have.

I also need to stop being such an open book because certain people will take that, abuse it and set out to hurt me. As they have so kindly done in the past few months. I have named these people as "Life Drainers"

No one needs a Life Drainer and therefore my life is now filled with "Life Brighteners" These are people who brighten your life. They believe in you, will be there FOR you and be there WITH you, for the laughs and the tears. They are true to you and they know you, sometimes better than you know yourself and will not be clouded by anyone else's opinions on you. They love you and want the best for you. I, in turn love them and want the best for them also.

As a wise, amazing man once said, in reference to me "I know who is important in my life and who who i will always be there for" Well, i too know who and what is important to me and who i will always be there for, no matter what.

So, I have brushed off all of the negative energy and i am now feeling amazing, happy and fulfilled. I have direction and some great ideas whizzing around in my head that are going to enrich my life and therefore my friends lives also.

I will keep you up-dated... but on a need to know bases. For all i know, YOU reading may be a Life Drainer!!!