Thursday, March 22, 2012
Gabrielle Aplin - Fix You (BBC Introducing Maida Vale session)
NO need for words.
Chris Martin made my spine tingle and this verson gives me goose bumps - simply beautiful
xoxo
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Learning the hard way
A lot has happened over the past few months. Not only to me but also friends of mine.
Every time i speak to someone about the problems that are surrounding their lives at the current time i am seeing the same pattern arsing; We are all learning lessons - the hard way!
As a small child when i had done something that hurt me my Mum would say "Well you wont do that again in a hurry will you"
The thing is,i rarely learnt as a child, not, to do it again. Then i got the line delivered to me "Have you not learnt your lesson!" Neither of these questions were actually questions, more rhetorical and i was never meant to answer them. If i remember rightly, if i did respond, it would result in an even bigger telling off and be described as 'answering back.'
Why did i do it time and time again though? The first time ended badly so why did i think that if i do it again its going to work?
Could it be the saying "Third time lucky" Another classic that is drilled into me. If this is the case, does this mean i'm going to get hurt three times before i do learn my lesson?
I will openly admit i will do something more than three times. Even if i get hurt, time and time again. This isn't because i am a glutton for punishment or because self-harm is something i do in my free time, but because i am an optimist. I always think, it will be better this time as it cant be any worse. If its a person that's hurt me, i think, they will have seen how much they hurt me the first time and surely they wont do it again. Unfortunately, they do. I know this is because they have a problem and i know that its not my fault. I guess i just like to see the best in people.
There has only ever been one time where someone hurt me over such a long period of time that i have never gone back. That cut so very deeply that even to think back to that time, it stings.
I will say this though, every time I do learn something. Whether it is about myself or about the other person i learn a little bit more. This does help me in the future and also helps me understand people.
The outlook i take is this; When something bad happens, we have three choices. We can either let it define us. Let it destroy us or we can let it strengthen us.
I follow the third.
I need to follow this mantra in the first instance, not the second, third, forth or fifth. The FIRST.
What would happen though if we learnt the easy way? If it didn't hurt? Would we learn as well as what we are meant to OR would it quite simply be forgotten? Maybe, as much as we think it hurts, it doesn't hurt enough and that's why we go back for more? Does it in fact need to hurt more for us to learn? Is that what defines how many times we put ourselves out there?
These are questions i think only the individual can answer. What i know is, i am going to try damned hard in future to remember to learn the first time. That way i may not only save time but i may save my feelings as well.
Unless it involves this:
I will happily do the same thing again and again for the right person! xoxo
Every time i speak to someone about the problems that are surrounding their lives at the current time i am seeing the same pattern arsing; We are all learning lessons - the hard way!
As a small child when i had done something that hurt me my Mum would say "Well you wont do that again in a hurry will you"
The thing is,i rarely learnt as a child, not, to do it again. Then i got the line delivered to me "Have you not learnt your lesson!" Neither of these questions were actually questions, more rhetorical and i was never meant to answer them. If i remember rightly, if i did respond, it would result in an even bigger telling off and be described as 'answering back.'
Why did i do it time and time again though? The first time ended badly so why did i think that if i do it again its going to work?
Could it be the saying "Third time lucky" Another classic that is drilled into me. If this is the case, does this mean i'm going to get hurt three times before i do learn my lesson?
I will openly admit i will do something more than three times. Even if i get hurt, time and time again. This isn't because i am a glutton for punishment or because self-harm is something i do in my free time, but because i am an optimist. I always think, it will be better this time as it cant be any worse. If its a person that's hurt me, i think, they will have seen how much they hurt me the first time and surely they wont do it again. Unfortunately, they do. I know this is because they have a problem and i know that its not my fault. I guess i just like to see the best in people.
There has only ever been one time where someone hurt me over such a long period of time that i have never gone back. That cut so very deeply that even to think back to that time, it stings.
I will say this though, every time I do learn something. Whether it is about myself or about the other person i learn a little bit more. This does help me in the future and also helps me understand people.
The outlook i take is this; When something bad happens, we have three choices. We can either let it define us. Let it destroy us or we can let it strengthen us.
I follow the third.
I need to follow this mantra in the first instance, not the second, third, forth or fifth. The FIRST.
What would happen though if we learnt the easy way? If it didn't hurt? Would we learn as well as what we are meant to OR would it quite simply be forgotten? Maybe, as much as we think it hurts, it doesn't hurt enough and that's why we go back for more? Does it in fact need to hurt more for us to learn? Is that what defines how many times we put ourselves out there?
These are questions i think only the individual can answer. What i know is, i am going to try damned hard in future to remember to learn the first time. That way i may not only save time but i may save my feelings as well.
Unless it involves this:
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